Which Country? When telling others of our plans to adopt, one of the first questions asked of us was, “Why Ethiopia?” Upon deciding to pursue adoption, we contacted Loving Shepherd Ministries (www.loving-shepherd.org), whose mission is to nurture abandoned, orphaned and at-risk children around the world and mobilize and empower Christians to do the same. We submitted the assessment form (age, employment, health information, length of marriage, state of residence, etc.) online. They responded by providing information about domestic adoption and a listing of international countries from which we were eligible to adopt.
Our hearts almost instantly decided on international adoption, mostly because of the “stability” of the process versus the possible openness of domestic adoption – specifically the heartbreak of a birthparent changing his/her mind at the last minute*. Additionally, due to the interview/selection process involved in a domestic adoption, this could have resulted in becoming parents quickly (unlikely) or within a 3- to 5- year time period. We communicated our preferred course of action to Loving Shepherd Ministries (LSM), who then provided us with information on each of our eligible countries and provided details such as the average age of children available for adoption, the estimated cost for each program, the number of required trips to the country, medical ratings, the length of the process from application to referral, the number of U.S. adoptions finalized the previous year, etc.
I attempted to be analytical by compiling a spreadsheet, but after weeks of praying, we found Ethiopia was within the top choices on each of our “mind-lists.” In the days and weeks following, it was simply a “turning of our hearts,” as we were not able to concretely identify WHY we chose to pursue a child from Africa; it simply seemed that our child was there.
With assistance from LSM, we began the process of finding a local agency able to compile a home study and an adoption agency qualified to place Ethiopian children with U.S. families.
The previous paragraphs contain lots of details, and that is a large part of the adoption process. There are numerous government regulations, social agencies and policies involved. But “behind the scenes” of adoption (and parenthood) are the heart strings. Adoption is a calling to not only give a child a home, but also a family. It’s an opportunity to not only share your love with a child, but also the love of Christ. It’s not simply about expanding a family; it’s also a chance to expand God’s kingdom. 143 million children are orphans worldwide. God has a plan for each of them and work for each of us.
As families contemplate the important decision of adoption, please feel free to contact LSM with any questions or concerns and refer to LSM’s Adoption Church Partnership Manual.
“O Lord, You have heard the desire of the humble; You will strengthen their heart, You will incline Your ear, to vindicate the orphan and the oppressed…” Psalm 10:17-18.
*LSM does not prefer or recommend one kind of adoption over another. Many of our clients have experienced wonderful and fulfilling domestic adoptions as well as international. LSM works with couples to help them discover what kind of adoption is right for them based on their personal hopes, dreams and fears.
HT: Loving Shepherd Ministries e-bulletin